How To Tell If A Girl Likes You Over Text (8 Signs!)

So you’ve been texting this cutie for a few days now.

But, there is a little tiny obstacle.

You have no idea where you stand with her.

And you don’t want to screw it up.

You don’t know how to tell if a girl likes you over text, and that’s a problem.

In this article, we’re gonna go over 8 signs that show a girl likes you.

Here’s what you will find in this article:

The 8 biggest signs that show a girl likes you

A ton of real-life screenshots so you know exactly what I’m talking about

My 3 bonus techniques to have girls chase you

The 100% fool-proof method to know if she likes you

A bunch more signs to know how to tell if a girl likes you over text

Wondering how to tell if a girl likes you over text? 

Here’s a quick summary of the 8 signs you must look for.

She replies to your texts (duh)

She gives you indicators of interest

She tries to get your approval

She tries to further the conversation

She writes A LOT

She shares details of her life with you

She texts you first 

She asks you out

Makes sense? 

Now let’s dive deeper into each and every one of those.

1 – She Replies to Your Texts

Let me start with the obvious first.

In a time when getting ghosted seems to be the norm, why not make the most out of it? 

It’s pretty easy to understand that if a girl doesn’t reply to you, she has other priorities right now.

It doesn’t mean she isn’t attracted to you, but maybe her ex came back or she’s too busy with work or school.

And sure, there are ways to recover a girl who doesn’t reply.

But it also means 2 things when a girl is actually replying to your texts.

She chose to reply to you instead of replying to one of the countless other guys trying to hit on her.

She chose to text you instead of basically doing anything else with her time.

I mean, she could have been scrolling through TikTok instead. 

But no, she replied to you.

That’s how to tell if a girl likes you over text.

Or at least the first most obvious sign. 

Let’s see more subtle ones now.

2 – She Gives You Indicators of Interest

Now there comes the big one. 

This is probably the most straightforward way if you wonder how to tell if a girl likes you over text. 

It’s when she will, well…

Basically tell you that she likes you.

What a lot of guys do is that they receive such texts but still… 

They fail to process that the girl is literally telling them that they like them.

It’s for example when she compliments you.

Or, more subtly,  when she says that she likes things about you. 

Or, less subtly, when she references her situation as a famous Cardi B song.

And when you receive that kinda text, your next move should be clear: 

Make a date happen.

3 – She Tries to Get Your Approval

1 level of subtlety above:

It’s when girls try to get your approval.

It’s when she cares about having you think that she is a good girl.

It’s when she shows that she’s ready to make an effort to make things happen.

When she shows she is a good potential partner.

It’s when she shows that she is good girlfriend material and cares about having you think good of her.

Or, more bluntly put from some girls, that she can s**k d**k g**d.

If she is trying to get your approval, it’s because she cares about you liking her.

And if she cares about having you liking her, guess what.

It’s because she likes you.

This is not a 100% sure proof way to know, some girls are simply insecure.

And they might seek male validation to feel better about themselves.

So make sure to couple this with a few more telling signs if you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you over texts.

4 – She Tries to Further the Conversation

Ask yourself whenever you’re texting a girl.

Who is the one who is always bringing new topics in?

Now here is a little experiment and exercise for you.

What happens if you’re not the one bringing new topics in? 

Does she help further the conversation?

Does the conversation die?

If the conversation dies every time you’re not pushing for it, well, I’ve got bad news for you.

On the other hand, if she helps keep it alive, that’s a great sign of interest.

It shows that she likes having your input on things

It shows that she enjoys interacting with you

Or if that’s earlier in the relationship, it shows she wants to interact more with you.

Simply put, the more a girl likes to interact with you, the higher chances there are that she likes you. 

5 – She Writes A LOT

Every once in a while you will text with a girl who likes to text a lot.

And by a lot, I mean literally oversharing. 

She had a fun time last time she went out?

She’s gonna reply to a full paragraph to your “how was ur weekend”.

I personally find it annoying as I feel SMS means Short Message Service for a reason.

And that reason is not to have lengthy conversations that you could have during a date instead.

But here she is, investing her time in writing long paragraphs to you. 

And again, that’s time that she doesn’t spend doing something else. 

If she didn’t like the guy, she wouldn’t spend time and effort writing all that stuff. 

Yes, I get it. 

That’s an extreme example.

Here’s a more mundane one.

This is a girl I’m dating, and therefore she doesn’t 1-word text me.

This is the kind of attention a girl you’re regularly dating would show through texts. 

Nothing too extreme, but still some effort. 

The perfect balance for a relationship, in my opinion.

And back to a more extreme one.

Thankfully, you don’t see those girls often.

Texts are supposed to be short. 

But if she texts a lot, it’s one more hint that she cares.

So add this to your little rule book of how to tell if a girl likes you over text.

If she shares a lot, she likes you.

6 – She Shares Details of Her Life with You

This one is similar to the previous one.

It’s similar in the way that this girl you’re talking to will invest a lot of effort in connecting with you.

Not necessarily because she would be writing a lot.

But because she would be trying to build an emotional connection.

She will share stuff about her to try and connect with you.

Here’s an example of a girl I met before Halloween. 

We both went to different parties, and I sent her a picture of my costume.

If a girl is sharing about her life like that, it means that she wants you to know more about her.

She wants to include you in her life

She wants to let you know more about her

She wants to start building that common story of you and her together

How to tell if a girl likes you over text? 

She shares a lot about her life with you.

7 – She Texts You First 

Studies show that women who reach out first tend to do it with guys that are more attractive than them. 

And so, if girls usually text first guys that are attractive, it’s not hard to imagine that it’s because they are really interested. 

In fact, that study shows that you’ve got up to 150% more chances to get a date with girls who text you first.

Amazing, I know.

But think about it for a minute.

Texting someone first is actually hard. 

What if you get ghosted? 

What if she says your opener was stupid?

And yet, it’s usually a man’s job. 

They say it’s because women want a man that’s brave and witty enough to text first…

Fair enough. 

But you know what’s better than texting first? 

Have a girl text you first.

One of the best ways I ever found to have girls text you first is…

To have a great profile. 

No matter the app you’re using.

Having great pictures and a great bio simply makes it easier for girls to text you first.

This is actually why Instagram is so powerful to meet girls.

If your feed is amazing or if you post interesting stories, it’s extra easy to meet girls from Instagram.

You will have some of them literally come say hi to you or react to your stories.

Don’t expect it to be super fancy.

Girls rarely try as hard as guys do when they make the first move.

But we will take that anyways.

8 – She Asks You out

Some guys are really oblivious to signs when girls like them.

But hey, I’ve been that guy. 

I’ve been that dude who couldn’t tell a girl was into him to save his life. 

And that happened very recently again, and I felt really dumb. 

There was this cute girl I met through some friends.

She kept inviting me to parties. 

I eventually figured out that she liked me when we matched on Tinder.

But by that time I had already moved to another city. 

Too bad.

Eventually, a girl who likes you might ask you out. 

And if you don’t believe in yourself enough or if you’re somehow convinced that she just wants to be friends with you, you will miss the obvious.

So let’s set the record straight once and for all.

Girls are shy too sometimes. 

So do them a favor and take risks in making moves.

But most importantly: Recognize that a girl who asks to see you have a high chance to like you.

In this example, you can see that I asked her out and she said she’s busy.

No problem. 

But then she literally invites me to go to the movies. 

It would be too bad to assume that she doesn’t like me.

She is literally asking me out.

Spoiler alert: I went to that date and it ended well.

Another example, I hinted at a date and she brought the idea of the date herself.

Some of my favorite text moves imply flipping the script to have girls chase me.

Effectively what this is doing is that it turns the whole “guy pursues girl” frame around. 

And girls just can’t resist.

Instead of chasing her and being the one trying to show her how cool you are to try to win her over, just do the opposite.

Try to have her show you how cool she is. 

Instead of being the seller, become the buyer for once. 

1 – Challenge her

My first very powerful tool if you wonder how to tell if a girl likes you over text. 

Challenging her.

Here is an example.

This girl just implied in her previous message that I couldn’t beat her at some game.

Because I am challenging her, it keeps the ball rolling.

We now have this sort of inside joke.

It helps build a connection between us

We can reference it later in the conversation as if we knew each other for a long time

We can include playful rewards/punishments that easily escalate to sex.

And the best part of that?

You can do it too.

And it’s very far from complex. 

All that you have to do is to throw a challenge. 

That’s it.

Bet that she can’t prove to you that she’s as great as she pretends she is. 

It can be about her ability to drink you under the table. 

(Look at that, you already have a first date)

It can be about how well she can throw axes with her tiny arms.

(Axe-throwing is so trendy as a first date those days.)

2 – Qualify her

When you qualify a girl, it basically means that you’re going to check whether she’s girlfriend material.

You’re going to see if she qualifies as a proper date for you.

What most guys do is that they will try and try and try to convince girls that they are worth a date.

And girls literally despise that. 

If you happen to befriend a really hot girl (and I really advise you do), she will tell you that it’s incredibly hard for her to meet honest guys.

Because they all put her on a pedestal.

They all put on a fake front to try and impress her. 

Girls are so used to it that they are trained to see through the masquerade.

What they are not used to though, is when a guy does the opposite.

When a guy has standards and deal breakers

When a guy isn’t afraid to walk away, even if that means no sex

When a guy proactively tries to see if she’s a good fit

If you behave that way, it keeps her on her toes. 

If a girl actually likes you, she will pick up the cue and behave even better if she sees you’re screening her for red flags and deal-breakers.

And she might even try and help you to figure that she has those things you’re looking for.

Most of it comes from shifting your mindset from “how do I get a girl?” to “how do I get a great girl?”

It’s as easy as that. 

You do this in 2 very simple steps.

You ask questions and do things that help figure if a girl is really what you like.

You actually walk away from girls who show disinterest.

(Optional but recommended) You go meet other girls who like you and who don’t have red flags.

3 – Disqualify her

This one is a little bit more on the “dark side” of seduction.

And it can backfire easily if she is not interested in you, to begin with.

(But hey, at least you will know she wasn’t into you)

What you’re gonna do is that you will effectively break rapport if she says something that you don’t like.

You will let her know or feel that whatever she did, you do not agree or accept it.

I love to use this, especially when facing a girl who shows disinterest.

It reminds her that I’m not a done thing and that she will have to step up her game. 

And that’s how you transform this

Into that.

Basically she made a ‘bad’ move and I don’t like it.

If you do that, it shows that you are willing to walk away.

And she will have to “win you over again”.

And since she wants your approval and validation if she likes you, she will try to convince you back that she’s a good girl.

If she does, jackpot. 

It’s a strong sign that she is interested in you.

Of course, we’re not here to win a battle.Dating is cooperation, more than winning over your crush.

But if you add a little bit of “push” to your usual “pull”, you will see that girls get way more attracted.

We usually tend to want what we don’t have.

And lose respect for what we have too much of.

Remember to make yourself a bit scarce and difficult, and girls will chase like crazy. 

If you wonder how to tell if a girl likes you over text, just try flipping the script.

If she starts chasing, it’s a strong sign that she likes you.

There I want to share with you a few more minor signs.

Those signs don’t necessarily mean a girl is into you.

But they should at least ring a bell and get you to wake up.

So that you can look for other signs you might have missed.

In no particular order, here we go:

She’s being sexual or implying sexual topics

She mentions she will be/is near you

She asks where you stay

She asks what you’re doing right now

She finds common points between you and her

She asks if you live alone or with roommates

She asks if you have a girlfriend

She mentions that she is single

She asks things about you

She’s always nice with you

She uses a lot of emojis

She shows you things you might like

She talks with you even though she has no reason to be talking with you

Now of course you can’t tell for sure that a girl likes you if you find only 1 or 2 of those signs. 

But.

The more signs there are in your exchanges, the more likely she is to be down.

I usually only look for 3-4 of those signs before going for the kill.

But let me put things back in perspective for you.

You might wonder how to tell if a girl likes you over text.

Fair enough, that’s why you’re reading this. 

But I’m telling you right now that you’re taking the problem from the wrong end.

Ideally, you should not have to guess whether she likes you or not. 

There is one move that is simply superior to just knowing how to tell if a girl likes you over text.

Especially if you want to avoid the friendzone. 

That is to let a girl know that you’re taking her number because you are interested in her. 

Be it on Tinder, or even from that last Saturday night party. 

It’s going to make everything smoother if 

She knows that you like her

She knows that you take her number to make a date happen

She knows that you don’t text her to “make friends”

So yes, that involves taking risks. 

She might even refuse to give you her number.

But what good is the number of a girl who wouldn’t have given it to you if she knew it was to ask her out?

It’s not like you can change what she thinks of you through texts.

(Unless you add her on IG and follow this Instagram Dating Guide to show her how cool your life is wink wink)

And that is in my opinion the true 100% fool-proof way of knowing if a girl likes you.

It’s when you combine those 2 things:

The premise of you taking her number for romantic purposes

At least 3 signs that she likes you through text messages 

You don’t want to finally let a girl know that you’ve liked her all along.

Only to have her frown, reply “eww” and ghost you forever. 

And I know it can be annoying, you don’t want to screw up and look stupid. 

So there you have it. 

Before reading this article you couldn’t tell when a girl liked you. 

Not anymore my friend. 

With this article, you finally know how to tell if a girl likes you over text.

You know every subtle ninja sign to look for.

So make sure you compare her behavior to the advice above.

And instead of typing on Google one more time “how to tell if a girl likes you over text”.

Just follow our guide!