Have you ever said something to a guy you wish you could take back?
Usually, this happens when you’re STD.
Nope, that doesn’t stand for what you think it does.
S = starving.
T = tired.
D = drunk.
And when we’re all three of these things, we become total monsters!
Here are seven things you should avoid saying to a guy, no matter how mad he makes you. Even when he leaves his dirty socks next to the laundry basket instead of putting them in the basket, despite talking to him about it a million times.
I hate you
It’s natural to have disagreements in relationships. I’ve been in fights with Jessica and my previous partners. But no matter what happens, you have to maintain a level of love and respect when arguing.
Under no circumstances should you tell a guy you love that you hate him. You might hate his behavior, but you don’t hate him.
Once you’ve said it, you can’t take it back.
I’m dating other men
You probably won’t say this to a guy you’re exclusive with. This might crop up when you’re still dating and exploring your options.
I recommend you talk to multiple guys until you reach Little Love Step #6. However, you don’t need to go out of your way to rub this in a guy’s face.
Usually, a woman might say something like this to make a guy jealous. But that’s high school shenanigans.
Now, if he explicitly asks you, don’t lie. But don’t advertise it either.
I miss my ex
It’s never a good idea to talk about your ex. You don’t want to hear about his ex, and he doesn’t want to hear about yours.
This can be tricky if you’re divorced because your ex was a big part of your life and may still be in the picture if you have kids together.
But I strongly urge you to think of “ex” as a swear word and refrain from saying it when talking to a new guy. All this will do is prevent you from building a connection and keep you stuck in the past.
I’m more important than your friends
No, you’re not!
He should have other priorities, and so should you.
He needs to have guy friends, and you need to have girl friends.
You both need to have independent lives and give each other a healthy amount of space in a relationship.
Telling a guy you should be more like (insert name)
You may wish he was more romantic like Sarah’s partner or tidier around the house like your brother is.
The thing to remember is that no one is perfect. We all have flaws, including you.
Telling a guy you love that he should be more like someone else isn’t nice, and it isn’t going to change him. He is who he is. If you don’t like it, then you can walk away.
You’re a loser
Again, this is a cruel thing to say to anyone.
And if he truly is a loser, why are you still with him?
Time to say, NEXT!
You can’t spend time with (insert name)
This is a boundary violation.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t like his friends, it’s not up to you who he spends time with.
Naturally, there are some gray areas here. One of his friends might be a bad influence and drag him into sticky situations. But still, that’s on him to recognize that person is a toxic influence in his life.
Similarly, if he’s trying to go out late at night to a bar with his ex, that’s inappropriate, and you’re right to be bothered.
But generally, you’ve got to let him do what he wants.
Avoid saying these things to a guy you love, and don’t spend time with men who are saying these things to you!